You need to unplug. The case for a five-day vacation.
You know you should take a vacation. You’ve probably scheduled it, then rescheduled it, or settled for a long weekend with the laptop open. This month, we make the case for five consecutive business days away from work, no exceptions for “critical deadlines.” The real obstacle isn’t your calendar. It’s a load-bearing presence that has accumulated, making your absence feel like a risk. Learn the behaviors that signal the problem, the root causes that keep it in place, and five steps to turn your vacation into a stress test for your organization and a development tool for your team.
We ALL need to work on effective listening. Yes, even you!
Most of us treat listening as a skill you either have or don't. It isn't. Effective listening is your natural style and active listening, multiplied by self-awareness in the moment. It is that second variable that no training covers. This newsletter unpacks the self-assessment paradox: monitor yourself too hard and you drift out of the conversation; abandon it and you're back on autopilot. Either way, you're not really listening. The fix isn't more effort; it's smaller, anchored check-ins tied to natural pauses already in every conversation. If you've left a hard conversation knowing you weren't fully in it, this is why.
Why don’t you give better feedback?
We all sit through the training. We learn the models, memorize the frameworks, nod along in the workshop. But knowing feedback in theory and delivering it well in the moment are two entirely different skills. And the gap between knowing and doing is where most of us quietly stall out. This issue of the newsletter explores why that gap exists (hint: it's not a motivation problem, it's a knowledge-type problem), what closes it, and why the discomfort you feel right before a hard conversation might be the most useful signal you have. Spoiler: the flinch you feel isn't the obstacle. It's the information you need that helps you close the gap.